Are Your Goals Stifling Your Strengths?

Discover Your Strengths. Photo Credit – Flickr: sbpoetWhen asked about persistence despite failures and unfavorable circumstances, I once heard Lady Gaga say (I’m paraphrasing):

“If I had given up, this wouldn’t be what I’m supposed to be doing.”

She knew that pop stardom was bubbling in her blood and no setback was going to keep her from achieving that goal.

Achievements aren’t always easy. They take work. Lots of hard work. Nothing new or shocking about that.

However, what you think you want can often block harmonious circumstances from entering your life.

Last year, I was given a mandolin, and I fantasized about how great it would be if I learned how to play it. I loved the idea of being a mandolin player.

But after a brief stint trying to learn, I threw in the towel.

Playing the mandolin didn’t fit with my soul. It wasn’t what I was supposed to be doing.

Certain activities are begging you to quit them. I listened to the beggar in my gut and moved on.

I liked the idea of playing the mandolin a lot more than actually playing it. Playing the instrument was nothing but a boring and irritating experience.

As I wrote in my last post about how to stop envying others: the things you actually want don’t stay WANTS, they become realities.

The things that you think you want can often hold you back from discovering your true strengths.

Discover Your Strengths

Hold a mirror perpendicular to your computer monitor.

A strength isn’t necessarily a task that you naturally do perfectly. It’s a labor that you effortlessly enjoy because the activity is interconnected with who you are.

If you’re preoccupied with doing something because of how it looks to the outside world, you’re feeding a weakness. Instead of cultivating something that you can’t live without, you perpetuate frustration.

Again, I liked the idea of being recognized as a mandolin player, but actually playing the mandolin suffocated me.

Dissect your goals to clear your mind. Divide the activities that make up your life into two categories: wants and think-you-wants.

Once you ditch the think-you-wants, you’ll discover new strengths that complement your inner-Lady Gaga.

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