How Do You End Conversations With Yourself?

Conversations With Yourself. Photo Credit – Flickr: Leo ReynoldsOur self-directed conversations can be as bland or lively as our conversations with others. Do not assume drama solely arises from external interactions.

We can rip ourselves to pieces in the same way we would attack any other person who berated us—and gain the same amount of satisfaction.

While such destruction may seem reserved for the masochistic bunch, you don’t have to thrive on pain to engage with the battle. We welcome pain into our lives all the time.

If you were sitting in a restaurant and the couple to your left quietly exchanged polite words while the couple on your right loudly insulted each other with abusive remarks, which conversation would capture your attention?

You choose to listen to the argument because it’s more interesting. It has potential.

Drama inspires possibility and plays a role in our development, even if we say we’d rather live without it.

The resolution to stay aware does not create change in your writing. You begin the evolutionary process when you proactively bring your issues to the surface.

When I edit, I note sections that need improvement before I make any corrections. I need to recognize weak areas but also observe their placement within the document. If you delete or rewrite words without first understanding their significance within a larger perspective, you may get confused or lost.

Conversations with yourself help you review your necessary tasks without the concurrent pressure of creating solutions that help you complete those tasks.

But you may not want to talk to yourself in the first place because you don’t want to let a change happen. Rather than explore a heartbreak cure, you’d rather remain heartbroken.

The self-inflicted quarrel may stir up drama without presenting any resolutions, making it seem pointless.

To avoid that scenario, ask yourself the following question before you open a dialogue with yourself: what do I get?

It’s a simple motivator for our self-centered, self-interested selves.

No matter how much you may dislike the discussion, you can focus on the benefit that you’ll eventually receive if you face what you need to face.

You may not have fixed anything yet, but you’ve highlighted the mess that you need to clarify.

How to Overcome HeartbreakStefanie Flaxman is the creator of @RevisionFairy and author of a new book about heartbreak.

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