How to Get Over Heartbreak for Valentine’s Day 2014

How to Get Over Heartbreak for Valetine's Day 2014. Photo Credit - Flickr: wiredforlegoIf you’re skeptical of traditional heartbreak self-help books, but would still like to get over heartbreak before Valentine’s Day 2014, here’s a chemistry lesson for you.

Noble gases occupy group 18 on the periodic table of chemical elements.

The outer shell of a noble gas’s atomic structure is at “full capacity,” so it rarely participates in chemical reactions.

It doesn’t need other electrons to be complete.

Other elements need to participate in chemical reactions to gain the number of electrons a noble gas already possesses by itself.

A noble gas has a stable identity that is full without any External factors.

Heartbreak doesn’t disrupt your stability when you behave like a noble gas.

When you know you are “full” on your own, what you have or don’t have aren’t factors that affect you.

If you need nothing, what is there to be upset about? [Read more…]

You’re the Master Storyteller: On Writing & Editing Your Life

How to Overcome Heartbreak Without Projectile VomitingYour right hand lifts your coffee mug to your lips, and you take a sip of the beverage that will activate your editing sensibilities.

After the drink’s vessel rests securely back on your desk, you look at your computer monitor, blink a few times, and glance down at your keyboard as you fiddle with your mouse.

Since you’ve already completed a rough draft of your writing, improving it should be simple.

Nonetheless, editor’s block has plugged the flow of your creative juices.

How do we end up in situations that require literary Drano?

A rough draft is the first step in the writing process, but you must stay vigilant.

The words that we initially transcribe aren’t always the purest and most accurate manifestations of our intentions.

You get to manipulate your creation until it satisfies your vision.

The evolution of a document is comparable to the evolution of human character.

We encounter editor’s block in our writing for the same reasons we get stuck in life:

We’ve made choices that have produced a present unhappiness and don’t feel we’re capable of making new choices that will alleviate our frustrations.

We’ve fallen down a well, and there’s nothing but darkness.

We don’t know how to get out. [Read more…]

Dealing With Heartbreak for Men

Dealing With Heartbreak for Men. Photo Credit – Flickr: nataliejDefining your target audience is the first and arguably most important step when beginning a new piece of writing.

Who’s interested in your topic?

Why are they interested?

How can your words capture their attention, hold their interest, and help them solve a problem?

Even self-involved and self-centered creations and works of art have an audience; it may be the creator herself, but there’s still an ideal viewer.

You need to understand that person.

The first version of my book about heartbreak felt like a good fit somewhere under the umbrella of “women readers.”

A female author writing a collection of personal essays about dealing with heartbreak would likely address the topic from a woman’s perspective and attract a female audience.

I ran with this idea for about six months, but then a number of things happened, and I found my initial manuscript trite and boring.

The over-saturated market of women writing about relationships and dating advice didn’t seem to need my input.

I looked at my project objectively and saw nothing new or different—and it wasn’t an issue additional editing or proofreading could fix. [Read more…]

Can Anyone Write a Book About Heartbreak?

Book About HeartbreakApproach any person walking down the street, male or female, and he’ll have at least three stories to tell you from his book of love gone wrong.

The passive-aggressive grow bitter with these stories, the proactive overcompensate, the cunning seek revenge, and the obsessive philosophize about them.

We’re exploring the last category.

While everyone experiences heartbreak, each brokenhearted tale has a unique fingerprint that defines each individual.

You own your heartbreak in the game of romance, and it’s not a single-player configuration.

Heartbreak is commonly and understandably—but incorrectly—interpreted as a personal attack; we feel hurt, and don’t see anything beyond the pain. It’s all about what’s being done to us.

A heartbreaker breaks the heart of the heartbreakee.

Except it’s not that precise.

The heartbreaker has a better perspective of the heartbreak than the heartbreakee.

Those who break our hearts can often see ourselves more clearly than we can. While our minds are clouded with idealism and fantasy, they see reality. And they see that we are meant for something else. [Read more…]

Dealing With Heartbreak & the Evolution of Identity

Dealing With Heartbreak. Photo Credit – Flickr: gingiberYou wake up, and for less than 10 seconds you might feel okay.

Then it hits you again.

The heartbreaking feeling you got to avoid while you slept comes rushing back to your consciousness.

Bracing yourself for the stinging sensation that will inevitably flow in and out of your mind throughout the day, you get up and start your morning.

Your life carries on even when you have a broken heart, so how does that wounded state influence the evolution of your identity from that point forward?

Dealing with heartbreak may seem like a limited process. You feel like shit until you don’t, and—at some point—the heartbreak that left you devastated will be laughable. You wait it out until the pain goes away because eventually it will. Simple. [Read more…]