Is There Actually a Way to Get Over Heartbreak?

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Once your fairy tale ends and you’re forced to face a heartbreaking reality, you don’t want to hear more bullshit.

Unfortunately, traditional talk about getting over heartbreak is as aggravating and distracting as the situation that broke your heart.

How to Overcome Heartbreak Without Projectile Vomiting: A Guide for Cynical Hopeless Romantics is the only heartbreak book that doesn’t mention your Ex.

Aren’t you tired of lamenting about everything that’s wrong with him or her?

When relationships, dating, and love are the themes of get-over-heartbreak discussions, solutions focus on getting over the people who hurt you.

But heartbreak isn’t about them.

It’s about You.

How do you let heartbreak change your behavior?

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Heartbreak 101: Dissecting the Pain

Heartbreak 101. Photo Credit – Flickr: alisonleighlilly“Did that hurt?”

The man in front of me in line at Starbucks pointed to the rose tattoos on my upper arms.

Before I had a chance to answer, he continued.

“That’s cool. I like pain, too. That’s why I got married.” Smirk.

The lack of caffeine in my bloodstream made it difficult to reply.

“Ahh, uh huh,” I giggled.

He wanted to chat, but since I’ve had the “I want to get tattoos, too” conversation countless times with his faceless counterparts, I wasn’t interested.

A stranger is not the best person to advise you about a permanent marking on your skin.

Besides, I already got what I needed: I like pain, too. That’s why I got married???

“Have a good day!” I affirmed, trying not to be rude, as I hurriedly stuck a straw in my green tea latte and went on my way. [Read more…]

Video: Heartbreak Cure for the Cynical Romantic

Book About HeartbreakTraditional heartbreak self-help books make me laugh.

Common outlooks and approaches to getting over heartbreak seem to lack substance, effectiveness, and longevity.

Heartbreak philosophy and the definition of heartbreak examine the ways we react, respond, and shape our identities after the experience of heartbreak.

The implications are broader than the arguably trivial sadness caused by broken or unrequited love.

Associating heartbreak and love is inaccurate because a discussion about heartbreak too easily becomes about dissecting a past romantic relationship.

Recovering from a break-up should not be viewed as the same process as overcoming heartbreak.

Here are my three main issues with traditional heartbreak cures. [Read more…]

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Book About HeartbreakWhat differentiates feelings of heartbreak from other painful emotions caused by disappointment, rejection, or criticism. What ingredients make up a broken heart?

If you label a state “heartbreak,” what events have occurred and what feelings have been evoked that make it specifically heartbreak?

I like to examine why people get upset in combination with their reactions and responses when something disturbs, offends, or insults them.

I call that sequence heartbreak, and it exists in the space of identity, self-development, and choices, rather than in the realm of love, sex, and relationships.

Those looking to get over heartbreak must first define it.

More than extreme melancholy, I regard heartbreak as a state that you’re in when your ideal state has been disrupted and can’t exist anymore—a recurring fact of life.

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Video: How to Overcome Heartbreak

How to Overcome HeartbreakWhen was the last time you felt it?

It could have been an intense jolt or a mild ache that lasted for years.

You may have gotten so used to living with it that you don’t remember how you felt, how you functioned, and how you formed opinions without it.

Heartbreak.

As you become your own Revision Fairy, you take responsibility for your life because it’s the life that you have to live every day. It’s your manuscript.

You write out what happens next, and edit out what doesn’t work.

Since symbolic writing and editing is all about examining choices, my philosophical magnifying glass likes to focus on what influences our decisions. [Read more…]